Some nights are just held waters waiting to get loose. Not the kind of water that flows from the ground or fall from the sky to rid us of heat and even “wash away our tears”; the kind of water that flows from within us, threatening to be unstoppable and bringing with it pains tucked away from a long time ago, pains stacked up from a short while ago, pains just incurred, and major pains that were dismissed for minor – same goes for the first few moments of awakening from a nice long sleep after a tragic happening. I call them our most unwanted visitors and I always wonder why they choose the times when the body and the mind should be getting the most rest to unrest us and even settle deeper. I wonder why they choose your most comforting moments to whisper “why are you this comfortable when you just lost so and so and would never get it back?” I wonder why we have to feel one pain over and over again. I wonder why even after healing from a certain pain, there’s always that possibility of it being reopened and hurting even more than the last time you had to feel it. I wonder why we have to feel them every single time they force themselves on us and how we can’t just send them away. For the most part, I wonder if they would ever leave one day and never return.
It is of utmost importance to understand and always keep at the back of your mind that every single pain you feel will not last forever; nothing does. No matter the intensity and severity of your pain, it will get better. It may not disappear overnight because, just like every other kind of wound, it takes time to heal even if affliction happened in the blink of an eye and that’s usually the case. By it getting better, I don’t mean it would go away and you would get to live painlessly ever after; but it will get better in ways that will enable you to get some natural rest on most nights than not; it will get better by fading out so thin that you will be able to force a smile when it comes knocking in the middle of the day and give it a firm “not today” and actually have it obey you and leave; you will be able to smile more than you cry and on days when you can’t have that, you would be able to just get lost in a book or a movie or even just a cup of tea – and you will appreciate that moment because even though it didn’t bring a smile or laughter, it didn’t bring your tears or sorrow; you will have more peace than the lack of it and you will appreciate and hold it dear; you will be able look back at your pain and reminisce on how much stronger it made you and how polished it left you after the hard scrub it gave you. Staring directly or looking back, you will appreciate that even when some pains never leave; they never stay the same or increase as long as you face them, accept them, and work towards healing them.
Like everything else worth having, there is no shortcut to overcoming major pains but the long healing process is absolutely worth it in the end. So hang on in there, trust God because He always has a reason for everything and would always have your back and come through for you, and never give up hope of healing from any kind of pain and being happy again. While you’re at it, remember and try not to cause your loved ones damaging pain to the best of your ability, give people a chance to care for you and when it gets to painful that all your need is some healthy space, make it known gently and kindly. I mean, what are happy days with no loved ones to share them with because you pushed everyone away while you were hurting? I know. Hope. Love. Heal. Feel. Smile. Rise.